As healthy as it is to set ourselves small SMART goals, such as going for a 30-minute walk, or getting up and showered before 9am, it’s also a time to develop self-awareness of our balance between accountability, motivation, and self-empathy. Let’s look at some of the tools to do that.
THREE SIMPLE TOOLS TO PRACTISE SELF EMPATHY
1. FORGIVE YOURSELF
Self-forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean completely excusing yourself of something, although it does mean that you can choose to try and look at what happened and learn from your experience. When you’ve done this, you can look at developing new tools to prevent making the same mistake again. Hold yourself accountable, then choose to let go. This is showing yourself some compassion. We all make mistakes, sometimes big ones, it’s how we choose to learn and forgive ourselves that enables us to move forward, with self-compassion in mind.
2. TALK TO YOURSELF LIKE YOU’D TALK TO YOUR BEST FRIEND
Next time you find yourself beating yourself up excessively for not exercising that day, or for eating some ice cream, or not studying – try this exercise. Talk to yourself as you would talk to your best friend. Yes, being a great friend can mean being direct with your friend because you don’t want them to make the same mistakes again. At the same time, it’s pretty certain that you’d equally incorporate genuine empathy and unconditional positive regard. You’d likely reassure them and tell them that they shouldn’t worry and that nobody’s perfect. Try talking to yourself like that. You deserve it more than anybody.
3. GET AWAY FROM COMPARISON AND BE REALISTIC
Next time you beat yourself up and compare yourself to that person on social media who seems to be flying through their Uni work when you aren’t, or if you see a friend from the gym post yet another healthy meal they’ve eaten along with their second workout of the day – I encourage you again to remember a few things.
- They too have their ups and downs. Their motivation also comes and goes, just like yours. Social media never tells the whole story
- We cannot always be productive given our varying responsibilities, such as; child care, caring for vulnerable family, or battling with our mental health
- Whilst we must hold ourselves accountable to get things done, we must also be kind to ourselves and practise self-empathy too, as this is equally important
Lastly, please remember that our Health & Fitness group isn’t just used to highlight your exercise achievements. It’s a chance to check-in, chat with everyone and let us know how you’re doing – the good and the bad. So don’t be afraid to check-in. We’re all in this together, and we shall all get through this together too.