Change is a constant in life, more so than ever at this present time. We’ve all experienced a significant amount of change in recent months but how can we get back on track if the change is overwhelming. 

Did you know that because change is ever-present in our lives we don’t actually naturally resist change, we actually always make changes that we believe are in our best interests. We can deal with change, all of us are change masters at the moment, but when the change develops, or another change scenario appears while you’re still dealing with the effects of the last change these effects can build up. We’re resilient and can deal with a lot, but sometimes things can overspill and become overwhelming.

Change creates opportunity, however, it is our attitude towards change be it positive or negative which determines how the changes affect us personally. Even when you resist or avoid it, it still enters our lives in some way. Being mindful of these situations is often easier said than done. We can be aware that we’re going through a period of change, but when that period or the combination of several change points causes us to deteriorate we may miss the signals.

Exercise can be a great norm, and can help us through periods of change by ensuring areas of stability in our lives. Even if we cannot exercise in the facility we want to, we can run, we can cycle and give ourselves headspace. Those consistent with exercise will not only see results in the gym, but also experience results in resilience. 

As human beings we become used to the ‘stream of life’ and when the status quo is rocked it can be challenging for many of us. 

Here are a few benefits of those changes that we do not feel some comfortable with: 

  • Personal growth – every time something changes we grow and learn new things
  • Flexibility – when changes happen frequently you begin to adapt more easily to new situations, environments and people. Which reduces the stress and panic when things unexpectedly change.
  • Opportunities – We never know what change will bring, but what we do know is it creates new opportunities for happiness and fulfilment. 
  • New beginnings – Changes bring excitement to life, it is about closing one chapter and starting another. Like each change is when you turn a page in a book. 
  • The snowball effect – Often it is when we have a big change we give up on it. This is when the small changes became useful. One small change at a time will eventually lead you to the big change you desire. 

Change can be seen as bad when it has an impact on our habits, we are creatures of habits after all. You will know this if you like a morning coffee but one day get up and you have run out of coffee – for some, that small change can derail the entire day, why, because that change affected a habit. We like habits which make us feel good, comfortable and secure. 

The reason that sometimes change is perceived as bad is down to the simple fact of the change not being in our personal interest. It’s those changes that don’t align with the values we hold dear as an individual – which is when many will experience resistance to change. 

Now benefits are all good and well in regards to change and we understand that change can be seen as bad. But how often do you hear people being upfront about the challenges and sometimes the pain that comes with change? This is usually the self doubt, wishing to quit and those ugly thoughts that we can have about ourselves when things get tough. So here are 3 tips on how to manage the more unpleasant side of change.

  1. Remember your strengths and past accomplishments, and how you have managed to overcome tough situations in the past.
  2. Remember why you are doing this and the positive motivation.
  3. Remember that the pain is temporary and this feeling will eventually pass. 

Change is never easy, however, the benefits almost always outweigh the pain that it takes to make the change. 

So be brave, embrace change – the good, the bad and the ugly side of it.